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The year was 1979-an essay by Chirlane McCray was published in Essence Magazine (a magazine whose primary audience is Black women) called “I am a Lesbian”. This was considered an incredibly bold move, to speak openly and honestly about her sexuality, stating that she “discovered her preference for women early before getting locked into a traditional marriage.”
With the "50 Shades of Grey" franchise turning into a worldwide phenomenon, now more than ever the kink and alternative lifestyle is a serious contender in mainstream TV, books and media. People everywhere – whether they are members of the kink community or not – are openly discussing the world of BDSM and other alternative lifestyle choices. And this isn’t the first time.
Your ability to effectively communicate your desires, boundaries and limits is your not-so-secret weapon to upping the satisfaction factor of all of your alternative and kink interactions. With that in mind, before beginning a new interaction, I highly recommend setting aside a time to sit down with each other and learn the other’s preferred methods of communication for low, medium and high priority conversation.
Hey – we’ve all been there. When you find yourself in the gutter of life, or at what some people call rock bottom, you may ask yourself, “How the heck did I get here? How on earth did I let this happen?” Even when challenging things happen that are out of your control (think a natural disaster, a death, or your partner having an affair) there is one thing you always have control over: your response.
Stephanie Queen